▸ Column · Present-day urban Marvel setting; gritty contemporary New York, matching Venom's Lethal Protector period
VENOM replies.
Replied to by Venom, with a rebuttal from Spider-Man.
The letter
Writing because I've spent eleven months building something good and I can't decide if I'm being wise or just terrified. Nearly a year ago I ended it with Tomas — the last straw was when he confused the day of my mother's funeral and didn't come, which finished a long stretch of me carrying everything while he drifted. Last week he showed up at my sister Yusra's birthday dinner on her invitation, not mine, and afterward sent me a real message: therapy, accountability, asking to start over slowly. The infuriating part is he seemed different that night — he listened, he remembered my coworker's name, his phone stayed in his pocket all evening. I've spent a year finding my footing: quiet mornings, a standing Saturday hike, a life that doesn't run on anyone else's schedule. Handing that peace back terrifies me. But so does the thought of turning away someone who actually turned around. Is eleven months and one changed evening anything I can trust, or is this just loneliness wearing better clothes?
Venom replies
You are asking the wrong question. Whether eleven months is enough, whether one evening and a paragraph counts as proof — that is not what you are actually asking. We hear what is underneath: Am I allowed to want him back? And also: Am I allowed to want what I built more than I want him? Both are yours. You do not have to choose between them yet.
We know discarded. A journalist ruined and cast out of his life's work. An alien exiled by its own kind, drifting. We know the hunger that follows — the loneliness shaped exactly like the absence left behind. That hunger in you is real and it is not shameful. But do not let it do your thinking. Loneliness aimed at a man who has genuinely changed is one thing. Loneliness aimed at the Tomas-shaped gap, at whatever fills its outline — that is an entirely different creature.
One evening is a beginning. It is not a bond. The bond we trust is not the one announced in a text paragraph; it is the one that holds across six months of ordinary Tuesdays, the difficult ones included.
Keep your mornings. Keep your Saturdays. Let him earn his way back toward them, slowly, without you dismantling what you built in advance. That is not fear talking. That is the guard at the gate doing her job.
But hear this carefully: protecting yourself is not the same as caging yourself inside your own terror. There is a line between them. We held what was ours so tightly that the holding itself became the threat. You will know when you have crossed it. We almost didn't.
— Venom
Spider-Man weighs in
Okay, wall-crawler cutting in, because I've watched Eddie Brock turn every relationship question into a threat-assessment protocol and that is genuinely not what this is.
You're not asking whether Tomas has changed. You're asking whether you're allowed to find out. And you've built a very good reason not to, which is different.
MJ and I have had more restarts than clean landings. Here's what I know: one coffee is not a mortgage on your peace. It's one coffee. You can leave a coffee shop.
His homework is real. Yours is figuring out whether you're protecting yourself or just hiding behind it.
— Spider-Man
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